Saturday, December 15, 2007

I loved this post as soon as I read it. With all the drama in digi community, its very easy to get caught up in negativity and lose your is a wonderful article (not mine but borrowed) I left original links intact, if someone would like to go and leave comments.

Creativity and the Choke Factor

  • Dec. 14th, 2007 at 6:07 AM
Creativity and the Choke Factor

Have you ever been faced with a stressful situation where it is crucial how you perform, only to choke just when you need to be at your best? We all have! An article, by Scientific American journal, studied this experience and found some interesting insights.

The researchers found that negatively stereotyped social groups are some are at the greatest risk of choking under pressure. For example, if women are told that they are not as good as men at math, right before a math test, then they tend to do poorer on that test then if they were not told this statement.

One reason for the may be that the women are having to fight off the negative thoughts as they are trying to also person a complext task like solve math problems. This is what the researchers called increased Cognitive Load. Others studies suggest that a negative stereotype increases feelings of anxiety and stress which affect performance.

As an artist, I feel the pressure of creating a painting when someone asks me to do one or wants to commission a specific image or scene. I can do great art, when I follow my muse and don't worry about the outcome. That is because I am not worrying about whether someone will like it or question myself about my artistic abilities.

There is also the element of our identity. How we "see" ourselves or thing that other see us can affect our perfomances. Another researcher studied how positive stereotypes affect complex activities and found that this actually boosts ability to perform. Why don't positive intrusive thoughts cause people to choke like negative ones? Because positive thoughts don't focus on our feelings of worth as a member of a particular social group. As an artist, positive thoughts about my artistic skills increase my worth in this group of people. If I don't think I am as "good as" other artists, that negative thought will cause me choke my creativity energies.

Should we just pump ourselves up before a difficult task or pay others to tell us nice things about we are? Maybe so. As a psychotherapist, I tell my clients to explore their audiences of appreciation. Who values them? Who will be able to notice their efforts to change and will accept them unconditionally? A lot of emotional sufferers just don't have enough awareness of their audiences of appreciation. Maybe my role as psychotherapist is to be one of those audience members.

Find out who appreciates you and can build up your creative energy with positive encouragements today.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

News You Can Use

Ding Ding the freebie train rides sure to stop by the Grand Opening of Do It Digi....along with the grand reopening of this great shop, you can pick up AWESOME freebies during the 12 days of Christmas giveaway. Each day goodies will be given away. Here is link

Be sure to check in!

I created a new set of templates for 4X6 Brag Book themed especially for Christmas....lots of presents, mini fir trees and other Christmas images. Here is a link to layout I did for my cousin and her son

Those papers are from my Christmas Around The World Freebie so feel free to grab those while you are here visiting.

Friday, December 7, 2007

CATW freebie news

The day is almost upon us...tomorrow is the grand unveiling of the Christmas Around the World freebie kit.

Here is a preview of my part! I had such fun making this and everything in the kit is NOT in the preview. This freebie will be available from 12/10-12/16. The link is not live until 12:01 EST.

Please leave me a comment here or on 4shared if you snag!

I also got my new blinkie! Once again I can not say how much I LOVE Amanda's work. Here are both of my new to show off my designs and one to say how full my hands AND my heart is with nine kids.

Wednesday, December 5, 2007

Still feeling blah

I feel so stagnated. I know a lot of it has to do with missing family members who have passed away as well as those who have moved away. I can remember Christmas Holidays from long ago with the grandkids (me included) and my cousins from out of town came. We would play Monopoly with my aunts & uncles (My Uncle Rick always cheated) while Grandma cooked the best sweet potato pie (and I got my OWN pie)....My dad would be singing off key while we all laughed at him.

Twenty or more years later, those days are gone. My Aunts Tammy & Cristy as well as my cousin Tahnee have gone on to heaven. And they live in on my heart. My grandma has cataracts so bad she hasnt baked in years. And she lives all way in Cincinnati. I haven't seen her in two years almost.

Sunday, December 2, 2007

Waiting for my blinkies

I am having Blinkies custom made for me....The talented gal, Amanda, who is making them does a GREAT job. I have seen her work and its marvelous. Plus like me, she collects frogs! Of course thats a big plus in my book!

I am JUST about done with my CATW freebie. I (as usual) kinda got paper happy so expect lots of papers. Textures, patterns, grunge....some have texture, grunge AND pattern!! Don't worry there are other elements as well. Right now I have about 20 pieces....who knows what else I will come up with between now and when I actually make my preview and upload my file. After all who would complain cause they got a freebie with MORE stuff than was listed or shown on the preview.

I think I am going to go blog visiting and pick up some of the great freebies listed at DST...

Sarah Grimwood got a C U U U T E December desktop here
ScrappyCats has a gorgeous pin & ribbon and a journaling tag here
Flergs has an AWESOME GLITTERY goodies...PLEASE go check out her blog for details and goodies

Saturday, December 1, 2007

My heart is heavy and eyes are full of tears

I had followed this story praying desperately that Latasha would be found unharmed and returned to her family. Well that was not to be. I know the deep hurt that her family is going through as it has only been two years since my 29 year old cousin was found murdered in a wooded area. No one who has not experienced a tragedy of this magnitude can understand how this devastating this is.

Why do men feel they OWN women. Not just in this case or in my cousin's (her ex is a person of interest) but Scott Peterson, OJ Simpson (he got off on a technicality) , Drew Peterson, Rae Carruth, all murdered women they SUPPOSEDLY loved. Where do they get the idea that its is ok for them to murder these women. That these women are not entitled to breath air? What gives the the RIGHT to take away these mothers, daughters, sister, cousins, friends out of their family member's lives? Domestic violence makes me SO angry. I don't understand how you say you love someone and then hurt them in the worse way possible.

Please pray not only for her family but for me and mine.

Ex-boyfriend charged in JSU student’s killing

Brian Albert Broom/The Clarion-Ledger

Jackson Police investigate the scene on Brown Street where a body has been discovered.

The ex-boyfriend of a JSU student missing since Nov. 13 has been charged with killing her, officials say.

Stanley Cole, 24, is suspected in the slaying of Latasha Norman.

A body found this afternoon off Brown Street in north Jackson is that of Norman, Jackson Police Department spokesman Sgt. Jeffery Scott confirmed late today.

The remains were found around 2 p.m. in a wooded area on Brown Street near County Line Road.

Cole, a criminal justice major at JSU, was in a Pearl court early Thursday for a hearing into charges he struck Norman Oct. 9 at a restaurant in Pearl. He was later taken into custody for further questioning in Norman’s disappearance.

Cole, whom Scott had termed “a person of Interest” a few hours earlier, was formally charged with murder after Norman’s body was found.

Cole apparently led police to the body.

The university, which spearheaded vigils and other events to keep Norman’s disappearance in the news, has cancelled classes Friday in her honor.

“I want to extend my deepest and most profound sympathy to the Norman/Bolden family, Latasha’s friends and others who loved her,” JSU President Ronald Mason Jr. said. “There are simply no words that can take away the anguish felt in the face of such a heinous and senseless act.”

The Jackson State Department of Public Safety has been investigating Norman’s disappearance along with the FBI, Hinds County Sheriff’s Department and the Jackson Police Department.

“We all worked around the clock, hoping that we could bring Latasha back safely,” said Chief Rebecca Coleman, director of the Jackson State Department of Public Safety. “Now, our efforts must shift to seeking justice. We mourn with Latasha’s family and friends.”

A memorial service in memory of the junior accounting major is set for noon Monday in the Rose Embly McCoy Auditorium on the main campus.

Coroner Sharon Grisham Stewart said more testing would be needed for a positive identification of the body. It was badly decomposed, police said.

An autopsy is planned for tonight.

Norman, an accounting major from Greenville, had been the subject of a nationwide search.

Her story had been featured on CNN. Digital billboards leased by JSU for advertising purposes had for days flashed Norman’s picture and listed law enforcement contact numbers.

Producers of the popular TV show, America’s Most Wanted, were in Jackson on Wednesday, filming a segment on Norman.

Norman, 20, was described as a serious student who kept to herself.